We Are Not (finally)

Checklist On How To Have A Good And Sound Relationship

1.)Accept your partner as he or she is physically and mentally. Your partner may not be tall or have the sense of humor but may be good in many other things. Look at the positive side and be happy with him or her.

2.)Communication is essential for any relationship to flourish. Share your feelings, your thoughts, and discuss your mutual plans for the future. Along with communicating, take the time to actually get to know your partner, and continue to know them as the years pass by. You might think you know each other that well, but, as times goes by, you and your partner both will mature, evolve and change. Time as well as the events that will happen to both of you throughout your relationship will change your relationship as well as your outlook on life. Don't be afraid of these changes, whether it happen to be your changing or your partner's at the time. Just remember to recognize those changes and communicate with your partner about them.

3.)Be loyal and show your partner that you are devoted to them, and only them. Be faithful to them as well as supportive. Your partner should be your confidante, your best friend, your safe haven in the storms of life as well as your exclusive lover. While you and your partenr will have loving relationships with family and friends, your relationship is exclusive and very special, and cannot be shared with anyone else.

4.)Spend plenty of quality time together, but remember to allow each other to have ample time alone. Even though you are in a relationship, and you want to spend time together enjoying your favorite activities, or just sit together and relax and talk over simple matters, each of you is still a separate individual with certain likes and dislikes. You both need time alone to enjoy hobbies that you might enjoy, but your partner doesn't. Don't think that because you are in a relationship, that you are joined at the hip and cannot do anything on your own. You both need equal time alone to think and organize your own thoughts or simply to wind down.

5.)Try to adjust to the maximum extent possible. Even then if it doesn’t work out, just leave it at that. Your partner will realize the effort you have made and will come to terms with you.

6.)Appreciation has its effect on every human being. It is the motivating factor for a human personality. So be honest and give sincere appreciation whenever your partner deserves it. Don’t procrastinate or be stingy with your words.

7.)The act of forgetting and forgiving is essential to the art of living. “To err is human”. So you must learn to overlook the mistakes of your partner. Stored anger and silent resentment will drain away the enthusiasm and will make you stop living.

8.)If you have done something wrong knowingly or unknowingly admit it. Don’t try to reason out when your spouse points out and drag it on.

9.)Go hand in hand with your partner in your life. Share your joys and sorrows however small they may be. There should be transparency in your relationship

. Never hide a fact, thinking of imagined consequences.

10.)Life has its ups and downs and its peaks and valleys. No one is always up or down all the time. Your partner may go through a bad patch but you should be the pillar of support. Problems do come to an end. Give a helping hand to your partner with patience till the problem crosses over.

11.)Clashes of opinion do happen and quarrels do occur, as we tend to loose temper in the spur of the moment. But see that you don’t carry it to the next day.

12.)Love is the undercurrent of life. When you follow a give and take policy in love as a partner, then it becomes a commodity. Give unconditional love. There lies the secret of enjoyment. When you give without expectation it returns in manifolds.

13..)Last, but certainly not least, work things out together. If you have a disagreement, which there are bound to be many throughout the existence of your relationship, don't let things get out of hand. Talk things over as calmly as possible and agree or learn to compromise on a solution to the problem, then kiss and make-up and go on. Don't hold grudges against each other. And don't make the mistake of taking each other for granted either. Life is full of uncertainties, but death is certain. None of us know exactly how much time we have on this planet, and how much time we have to enjoy the company of our spouses, so don't waste it on not getting along!

Let's try to work things out huh.Let's talk some other time, pag hindi na tayo "BUSY".

Bye..